Bullying Prevention

Most kids have reported being teased in a playful, friendly, and non-threatening way. However, teasing has the potential to become serious when it's hurtful, abrasive, and constant. This type of constant teasing may also be referred to as bullying. As parents, we don't even want to imagine our children becoming the target of a bully, but unfortunately it happens... and a lot more often than you think.

When Bullying Turns Normal Routines Into Nightmares

A bully can change normal, everyday routines into nightmares. Suddenly, safe havens like the bus stop, recess, or the lunchroom become scary and frightening. If your child is being bullied, there are ways to deal with the situation, and even if your child isn't being bullied, it's important to discuss the issue and be prepared for a situation that may eventually happen.

Follow these strategies to improve the bullying situation:

• Remain calm. A bully is always looking for a reaction, and not providing him with it will eventually make him give up. It's important to note this tactic came take some time, but it will ultimately be successful.
• Put on a brave face. Even though your child is scared, tell him to carry himself with confidence. It's easier to pick on someone who is slouched in the corner than to pick on someone who is standing tall and seems sure of himself.
• Avoid the bully. Although you shouldn't have to avoid someone to solve a problem, sometimes you're just forced to take an alternate route. Tell your child to walk a different way to his locker, the bathroom, etc.
• Take away incentives. If the bully is taking lunch money, pack your child's lunch. If he wants a certain toy, prohibit your child from taking that toy to school anymore.

If the Bullying Continues to Get Worse…

If the bullying continues to escalate, it may be time for you to take matters into your own hands. You'll want to consider consulting with your child's teacher and principal to make sure they aware of the problem and to monitor activities. Many parents go through the "bullying phase" with their kids, so ask for a teacher's advice. Remember, it's important to let your child try to solve the problem first, but be prepared to jump in if the situation continues to worsen.